Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Bits and Bobs

I haven’t done a bullet post in a while. That’s probably because every single event in my life is usually so earth-shakingly momentous that it really deserves its own post. But today, I’ll condense things.

-As we speak, we are in the middle of a surprise layoff here at my office. Said layoff, in a word, sucks balls. So far, I’ve heard of two friends who have gotten the axe. I just helped one of them pack up their office. I keep looking at the phone waiting for it to ring to see who else is gone. Did I mention this sucks?

-My wife thinks I’m not doing my son any favors when I take him out with me for ice cream and come back with him sporting this:


Maybe it’s just me, but childhood innocence is just too damn short. If he wants to impress his friends by wearing the Jolly Roger on his arm for a few days before it peels off, then by God I’m gonna let him do it.

It also pleases me that I have seemed to have elevated myself to the title of “Super Cool Dad” to him, and all of his friends. Not just because of the tattoo… it’s all of the other stuff I do with him as well. Last week I volunteered to be one of the parents on his class trip to the local library, and by the end of the day the entire class was telling my son that they were “so lucky you have him as a dad!”

I know it won’t last. I know one day, when he’s a teenager he’ll come home one day and think I am the lamest person in the world, but until that day comes, if I can break some rules with him, make him laugh, and see the look of joy in his face as I do something with him that he knows he probably shouldn’t do, then fuck it all, we’re gonna do it.

-Yesterday would have been my grandfather’s 96th birthday. I miss him terribly. Next week he will have been gone for one month now, and I still have trouble believing he’s not here. If one more person says to me “at least he lived a long life”, I do believe I will fucking kill that person with a hatchet. I KNOW he was fortunate, and lived a good long life. I don’t care. I still want him back.

38 comments:

James said...

Yeah, where's the harm in the tattoo? Kids love all that stuff. My kids love going up town with me I almost always get sidetracked by fun stuff.

Very worrying about the layoffs.

Steph said...

When I was raising my two boys as a single mom, I used to do things like that with them (allowing them to break a rule once in a while). Let boys be boys -- so long as no one loses an eye and nothing gets broken. My other "mom" friends thought my guys would turn out to be hoodlums, but they came out better than theirs did.

A temporary jolly roger tattoo is a good thing on an arm... and in the memories.

You're a good dad.

Being Brazen said...

great post - Sorry to hear about the work layoffs , that does suck.

glad to hear your son thinks you are a super cool dad.

My gran passed away 2 years ago - I still miss her so very much and wish i had listened to her advice more

Dr Zibbs said...

Slyde I know we don't know each other that well but would you like me to talk some sense into your wife about the tattoo issue? Just let me know.

Slyde said...

james: i agree.. its all in good fun.

steph: i couldnt agree more. I think kids NEED to feel empowered like that once in a while, and need to feel like they are given more responsibilty/power than even THEY think they should have.

brazen: sorry about your gran. Its been very hard for me.

Slyde said...

zibbs: any sense that could be talked into her about ANYTHING would be greatly appreciated..

B.E. Earl said...

Just imagine the danger of that temporary tattoo. He might grow up to get a random tribal tat on his bicep, but only be manly enough to get it half-way around.

The horrors!

Slyde said...

earl: You sir, are a prick. i love my tatoo. one day i will be lame enough to put a picture of it in my sidebar...

Candy's daily Dandy said...

Hey slyde, thanks for the shout out! Great post! Tats are a childhood rite of passage. What's all the hub bub about? Not only is he adorable, but he looks like he's lovin it! It's not like you forced him to do it, is it that the tat is of a skull and crossbone? Shit, I am a chick and I wear a (diamond encusted) skull and crossbone around my neck every day! Its one of my most favorite things in the world because it represents my edgy side. I'm a mom and have 2 kids and guess what? I didn't grow up to be a hoodlum. Would people feel better if his tat was of My Little Pony? HA! You sound like a great dad!

I got laid off in August! Ya it sucks.
Sorry about your Gramps-you never truly get over it but you will make your peace with it. Hopefully soon.

Candy's daily Dandy said...

Hey slyde, thanks for the shout out! Great post! Tats are a childhood rite of passage. What's all the hub bub about? Not only is he adorable, but he looks like he's lovin it! It's not like you forced him to do it, is it that the tat is of a skull and crossbone? Shit, I am a chick and I wear a (diamond encusted) skull and crossbone around my neck every day! Its one of my most favorite things in the world because it represents my edgy side. I'm a mom and have 2 kids and guess what? I didn't grow up to be a hoodlum. Would people feel better if his tat was of My Little Pony? HA! You sound like a great dad!

I got laid off in August! Ya it sucks.
Sorry about your Gramps-you never truly get over it but you will make your peace with it. Hopefully soon.

Candy's daily Dandy said...

Sorry for the double post:( I dont know how I did that.

Slyde said...

candy: welcome! i agree 100 perecent about the tat. I have a tattoo, earring, and i turned out ok. About the only thing i never did was a piercing (besides ear), but that was just because it just wasnt my thing.

mikeb302000 said...

Slyde, Your boy looks great with that tat. I do the same with mine who's only 4 and a half. He loves the Dragonball figures and the Power Rangers.

Bruce said...

The fact that you are willing to commit homicide with a fuckin axe upon anyone that 'disses' your granfather shows without a doubt how much of an impression he must have made on you. Give them a few whacks for me as well.

Being a cool dad never lasts....but pays huge dividends by the time they turn 40. Sort of like investing in Municipal Bonds.

Layoffs? Ha.. I work for the goverenment, we are the last to lay folks off and we are also the last to get a pay increase. Security has its price.

Ookami Snow said...

If you can get followers while in a library you must be doing something awesomely right.

teeni said...

Awesome post - I love your sons tattoo! Some kids don't ever think their parents are lame so you never know - you might skip that period totally. :) We can hope anyway! I totally hear you about your grandfather and people saying well at least he lived a long life. It never makes anyone feel any better when it was someone they truly loved who is gone. But people just don't know what to say and we humans are famous for saying stupid things so try not to be too upset over it. Gotta forgive people for being human. ;) But that same sentiment is why I never made a big deal about when a group of firemen died on the job around where we live. Everyone wanted to do a big thing and a monument and all and I just kept thinking that's a nice idea and all but what message does it say to little Johnny whose father was also killed on the job, just not as part of a group - is his loss any less than those others'? No. Each person's loss is equally tragic. Ah, where was all this wisdom when I was young and could've used it? Hugs to you, Slyde. You will always miss him - there's not pussyfooting around that. But fortunately for you, you spent quality time with him and for that you shall have no regrets. I'm glad he had you.

Sunshine said...

You can tat me anytime babe... it can match my other two that I already have... ( smiling huh :) )
I usually have my dads chaperone my Field trips and actually I have a home room dad this year. The kids love it and the dad or dads do not complain either...
oxoxox

Michelle J said...

Slyde:
I simply think you rock! I am not sure how to say it any simpler!

You are a great dad and friend! Your son is mega cute! Does he look like you?

I don't know, i'm just saying! Your a good guy! Ok, i'll stop now!!!

AlleyCat said...

I think I have a spare hatchet you can borrow if needs be.

Nothing wrong with a stick on tatt!

Library trip - cool because you bothered to go. I bet a lot of kids were wishing their dad's had gone too. He is lucky to have you as a Dad :0)

Ali said...

Your kid is such a doll! He looks very cool with that tat on his pipe :)

The fact alone that you want to hang out with him so much makes you pretty amazing.

I never went through the "my parents are SO uncool" phase. My dad is one of coolest people I know.

And if tattoos are what make your kid into bad apples these days...I think my kid is in trouble...she already stares in wonder every time she sees one of mine.

Tamara said...

Your son is so cute! When do we get to see your tat?

Tamara said...

Your son is so cute! When do we get to see your tat?

Bina said...

I see nothing wrong with letting a kid have one of those tatoos. My 5 year old wears them all the time. Big deal, is what I think! Let him have fun.

Man, the lay off stuff does suck donkey balls. My sister works for Bank of America in Dallas and she they are going through lay offs again, too. Scary.

I'm sorry about your grandpa. And I completely understand how much you miss him. You SHOULD miss him. He sounds like he was a great man.

Slyde said...

mikeb: thank GOD my son hasnt gotten on the power ranger kick!

bruce: yeah, everyone says that once they become adults, it comes around full circle.. we will see

ookami: go play a boardgame, will ya?

teeni: well said. I never know the right thing to say or right way to handle someone elses grief..

Slyde said...

sunshine: I BET they dont complain... i wouldnt either if i was spending time with you...

michele: my son is my spitting image... really. everyone calls him my mini-me.

alleycat: thanks! i'll be sure to swing by to pick up that hatchet.

ali: he already wants me to get another... i think this year i will grant him his wish..

Slyde said...

tamara: as soon as i remember to take a picture of it, i'll put it up.

bina: i worked for bank of america in the 90's... i honestly thought it was a pretty shit company... hopefully your sister comes thru the layoffs ok.

Faiqa said...

Your son is so cute. Tatoo and all. And I'd like to believe that all children aren't absolutely destined to hate their parents when their teenagers. I mean, I haven't seen any evidence to the contrary, but...we can hope.

Slyde said...

faiqa: now thats a coincidence! i was just trying to get to your site about 5 min ago and it kept timing out on me. r u having problems with the new site, or is it just me?

Anonymous said...

Hey, Joey is very lucky to have you as a father. You are a COOL DAD.

I agree with you, enjoy him now because when they become teenagers they don't even wanna be seen with you. LOL

Michelle J said...

Well then, you must be quite the looker!!! :O)

Holly Hall said...

I second all of the positive comments about you and your Daddy abilities.

And I'm sending you a very big virtual hug about the job situation. And I also second Bruce's comment about the job.

And one more hug about your Grandfather. It will suck for quite some time. My heart goes out to you.

xoxo

Holly

2abes said...

i'm with ya, let him have his fun with the stick on tatoos! btw, who had their tatoo first you or earl?

Slyde said...

anon: thx!

michele: of COURSE i am! havent you read anything ive ever wrote? :)

holly hall: thanks, hon...

abes: i had my tatoo YEARS before earl.. hes just a copy cat...

Sitting in Silence said...

Good job...It's all about being the cool Dad these days...could have been wayyy worse...just ask my talented DH NOT !

Slyde said...

sitting: ouch! i guess he didnt come thru for halloween?

Real Live Lesbian said...

Looks like a wonderful Halloween!

And it gets better...but I want all of my grandparents back. It's not fair.

Slyde said...

reallive: No, no its not. not at all.

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