Wednesday, August 27, 2008

My Mom’s A Peach

I give my mother a hard time, but sometimes I’m reminded that I could have done a whole Hell of a lot worse in life.

My mother called me yesterday, completely frantic.

Now, anyone who actually KNOWS my mom wouldn’t be alarmed by this. She is a chronic worrier by nature. She worries and frets about everything. EVERYTHING. I have often thought that, if my mother didn’t have something in her life to worry about, then she would not know what to do with her time. I honestly think that growing up and having to deal with all her obsessing over trivial stuff is the main reason I have such a lackadaisical, “live and let live” attitude towards almost everything.

Anyway, she called me up to tell me, in a state of near hysteria, that her credit card is missing, and she thought it was stolen.

Again, I still was not too concerned. My mother loses things all the time. Like, DAILY. I think she does it on purpose, to ensure that she always has a healthy dose of things to worry about.

Anyway, as the day went on, and I got regular phone updates on all of the places where she has looked for her credit card and not yet found it, I finally started to get the inkling that this time she DID in fact lose her credit card somewhere.

So, after a few hours of these phone calls, I finally told her to just call the credit card company and cancel her card.

She called me back an hour later in a panic, and told me that the credit card company had told her that her card HAD in fact been stolen! Someone had used it just that morning to buy gasoline at a local service station, as well as some groceries at a nearby supermarket.

Of course, she had the credit card company strike the charges from her bill, and cancel the card.

They also told her that she should contact the gas station and supermarket, since almost all of them nowadays have security cameras, and it should be an easy task to find the culprit.

My mother refused.

When I asked her why, she said to me, “Well, if they had run to some electronics store and bought themselves a new 60 inch TV or something, I would have done it in an instant. But all they bought for themselves was gas and some food. With the way the economy is today, who knows what this person’s situation is. Maybe they NEEDED it. I couldn’t sleep tonight knowing I put someone in jail for trying to feed their family.”

And with that, I was humbled.

I am so used to going all Sicilian on anyone who tries to mess with me and mine, that I don’t ever step back and take a look at things from another point of view.

That’s something my mother was always good at.

My mother still drives me batshit crazy most of the time, but today she gets a Gold Star.

28 comments:

2abes said...

Now thats a Disney story ending...way to go Mom! Mom still has the ability to do something that makes you proud. Just don't eat the tomatoes...

Mrs. Hall said...

Wow.

That is quite a story.

Much to be learned, even from the crazy people in our lives.

:)

Mrs. Hall

Slyde said...

abes: dont remind me of the tomatoes.


mrs hall: very true. very true.

B.E. Earl said...

Tell her I said thanks for the gas and groceries.

I was on my way to the Adult Shop when she cancelled her card. Crap!

Steph said...

That's a really cool story. Two thumbs up for Mom!

Slyde said...

earl: see? i pour my heart out and you stomp all over it. isnt that just like a man?

steph: two thumbs indeed!

Michelle J said...

Slyde: aren't mom's good that way?? Just when you think you've completely had enough, they come out with some shit that makes you stop for a moment and just think!!! My mom too!! She does that!!

She is a worrier also, only instead of be being laid back as complete opposite to her, i am JUST LIKE HER!!!!

How's that for scary??

Michelle

Slyde said...

michelle: pretty scary indeed... i dont know how u guys do it. I think my hair would fall out for all the worrying my mom does over useless crap..

Bina said...

Wow. I want to give your mother a hug right now. I was sure you were gonna say the person on the video camera's were her, but I never expected THIS!

Your mom rocks!

lotus07 said...

While I admire your mother state of mind regarding the lives of others. I think that in playing devils advocate, I need to point out, that you can't by crack or herion with a credit card, so those types of charges wouldn't show up. As opposed to bread and eggs, beer and wine are also considered 'groceries' and what makes her think that the car they were putting gas in actually belonged to the driver? Might it have been stolen?

There is charity and then there is naivity.

Chris said...

Your mom stayed pretty cool after all of that. I would have asked for video review, and asked to testify at their trial...
A rare happy ending, indeed!

Tamara said...

Well, unlike Lotus07, I choose not to be cynical (well, this time anyway) and am totally with you - gold star for your mom!

sweets said...

sweet mom you have there slyde, crazy but sweet :)

that is quite a good lesson to learn. i once "lost" my credit card, the last transaction was at a liquor store for R27 (very small amount)... i kept thinking how stupid the "thief" was for only spending that amount! it turned out of course i never lost my card... it was me, i bought a six pack of vodka cooler for a party... hehe... after i of course told the whole world about the "stupid" thief... oy

τ ħ€ ĐάЎđяёάmёя said...

When I asked her why, she said to me, “Well, if they had run to some electronics store and bought themselves a new 60 inch TV or something, I would have done it in an instant. But all they bought for themselves was gas and some food. With the way the economy is today, who knows what this person’s situation is. Maybe they NEEDED it. I couldn’t sleep tonight knowing I put someone in jail for trying to feed their family.”



she gets a goldstar from me too :)

τ ħ€ ĐάЎđяёάmёя said...

since u update quite a regular.. and i wud like to come here more often ...u r blogrolled... :)
u write well....

Kit said...

Wow Slyde, I didn't realise you were such a soft deep down. Very sweet story.

Ali said...

Wow. Your mom really IS a peach - nice job Slyde's mom!

I, on the other hand, have been blessed with an Irish temper - and I would have been on the phone trying to bust that guy immediately.

Slyde's mom = peach

Ali = sour grape

latindog said...

I would have done the same thing as your mother.

Because I'm a lazy bastard and would choose to just be done with the whole thing. As long as they didn't use the card to buy a shotgun (then I would feel obligated to do something).

If the credit card company didn't basically agree to void the charges, I also would have had to follow up with the videotape. If their groceries were coming out of my wallet rather than Visa's or Stop and Shop's, I would have been less sympathetic.

I also would have said that I did it for the same reason your mother said.

Slyde said...

bina: that would have been a much funnier ending!

lotus: she didnt lose her entire wallet, so no crack was purchased.. just her credit card.

chris: yeah, you and me both!

Slyde said...

tamara: there ya go!

sweets: now THAT story is better than mine!

daydreamer: welcome! and thanks!

Slyde said...

kit: thats me.. soft where it counts, and hard where it counts :)

ali: like i said, i would have done the same as you... my temper always gets the better of me..

latin: are you implying that my mother was just being lazy?

elizabeth said...

Your mom deserves the biggest of hugs.

Slyde said...

liz: agreed.

honeywine said...

While it was very nice of her, I dunno. I've been pretty down and out at times in my life, but I don't think I'd have used someone else's card even then.

teeni said...

She IS a peach. But I've heard that most people who steal your credit card will first use it to buy small items like gasoline and groceries just to test out that it is a valid card. I don't know if you should tell your mom that though. I hate when these things happen.

white rabbit said...

'They also told her that she should contact the gas station and supermarket, since almost all of them nowadays have security cameras, and it should be an easy task to find the culprit...'

Ermmm - isn't that what police are for???

cathouse teri said...

Oh man! That kinda made me get all teary eyed!

Give your mom a kiss for me.

Ruby said...

me thinks your mom should get more than just one goldstar for this little venture;)